Popular Nigerian relationship coach and pastor Kingsley Okonkwo has stirred widespread reactions on social media after sharing his views on how women should approach relationships.
His statement, which has since gone viral, has generated mixed opinions among Nigerians, with many agreeing while others strongly disagreed.
The conversation gained momentum after a screenshot of the verified post surfaced on social media, where the pastor advised women to be more open to those who show genuine interest in them rather than focusing only on their preferred choices.
According to Kingsley Okonkwo, “As a lady you don’t choose who you want, you choose from who wants you. So start answering those dms, reply the chats and pick those calls.”
The post quickly attracted attention across various platforms, with many users debating whether the advice reflects the realities of modern dating or reinforces outdated relationship expectations.
While some commenters argued that mutual interest should always be the foundation of a healthy relationship, others maintained that women should never feel pressured to entertain advances from people they are not attracted to.
The discussion also reignited conversations about dating standards, compatibility and the importance of balancing personal preferences with genuine affection from a potential partner.
As the post continued to circulate online, social media users flooded comment sections with differing perspectives.
Supporters described the advice as practical, saying relationships often succeed when both people are genuinely interested in each other.
Critics, however, argued that everyone has the right to choose a partner based on personal preference rather than simply selecting from those expressing interest.
The debate continues online, with many Nigerians sharing personal experiences to support their views on dating, relationships and choosing a life partner.
